"Kate's death was unexpected.For 2 years Gibbs and Kate flirted a lot-remember his amused tolerance of her faults and ingorance of all things naval,that feeling that no matter what,he was always make shure she was OK , that sence that he is torn between professional respect and a chivalrous,old fashioned need to take care of her as well as the occasional urge to throttle her.It's clear that he liked her a lot. Jen,on the other hand,betrayed his trust in Paris, sent him a "Dear John "letter,didn't tell him that she didn't do her job in Paris and because of that put his life in danger,Considering that and more,Gibbs not trusting her makes a perfect sense .

If he loved her,then he express that in a very strange way-he said "No"in "Lost and Found"From what I saw on the ep.,most of the 'Jibbs' action seems to be on Jen's side. Gibbs was willing to renew their relationship at the beginning of S3, but Jen shot him down.Jen said in 'Jeopardy' that Gibbs sees her like a wife-an she meant it not in the pleasant way.In 'Lost and Found' their conversation at her home is very telling. Gibbs is not interested. When he tells her that she made her choice it sounds very final to me. I don't think he is a man that forgives easily.Gibbs don't trust people,who hurted him-no matter how he cared for them,and trust is the key for Gibbs in one relationship.Remember S3 and the conversation he had with Jen:G:" Trust is 2 ways,Jen",J:"What you are saying-you don't trust me?" ,G:"Of course I do"his face and tone of voice said 'You don't have all of my trust'.Gibbs loved her as someone he'd known for a long time-he didn't look at her like a lover.he wasn't in love with her anymore, but he still cared for her. I think that the whole Frog thing and her behavior may have erased any possibility of loving her anymore."

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Gibbs turning down Jenny's offer to stay doesn't mean he doesn't love her anymore. One of my best friends is one of my ex-boyfriends. I love him with all of my heart. Doesn't mean I would want a relationship with him (again), I don't. He feels exactly the same about that. Its just an example, but loving someone is not the same as being in love with someone. To me loving someone means much more than a crush.

Your point was that Gibbs grieved more about Kate than about Jenny and therefore he loved Kate more. I just don't think thats the right conclusion. I think Gibbs felt very guilty about Kates death. He was standing right next to her, she already took a bullet for him and then she was shot between the eyes. The scenes where Gibbs thinks about her are (in my opinion) filled with regret about his personal failure, because thats how he sees her death. He says "I'm sorry Kate,"'on her funeral?

Jenny's death was completely out of his hands. Doesn't mean he's not as sad (or more) about her death as he was about Kate's death.

When Mike said: "Girl cared for you. Had a lot of regrets" and Gibbs replies: "We all do." I don't know what he meant. But I didn't think he meant to say he didn't care for her anymore and that her regrets are just as normal as the regrets of all of us.
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"EXACTLY what I said:"Gibbs loved her as someone he'd known for a long time-he didn't look at her like a lover.he wasn't in love with her anymore, but he still cared for her. "He still loved her,but is not in-love with her.

I NEVER said that "Gibbs grieved more about Kate than about Jenny and therefore he loved Kate more."-I said he had a feelings for her and liked her a lot,but NEVER said he loved Kate more-that 2 different relationships.I compleatly agree with Sorgiña-Kate's death was more tragic,because Gibbs never saw it comming-maybe at the beginning he didn't know about Jen's illness,but if I remembe corectly,Ducky told him-he understand that Jen wanted to chose her own way to leave this life,and he understand her decision-in the case of Kate's death it was different-Kate didn't "request" to be killed by Ari.Gibbs looked at Jen's death like loss of the team member,who left this life by his choice-therefore we don't see flashbacks or more grieving-the same case was Chris Pacci and Paula Cassidy death for example-we didn't se any flashbaks there too."

"I loved the parallel between you and your frien and Jen-I see their relationship exactly that way.I'm sorry if I was nasty or pushy.:)*hugs you*"

"On NCIS Special Ops forum someone wanted to name Gibbs' thread "Deadly for women"/he didn't meant anything bad ,of course/,but we decided that's not a good idea,because he really is.Strange that the women he loved/love,are dead.I suppose this is like a fate -he killed the killer of his family/that's something i understand,but don't approve/.You know. the Bible says "An eye for an eye"-he took a life of the killer,the fate took his happiness of the marrige/I don't see that like a fair game,since Gibbs married 3 times after Shanon-all failed,but still,I hope you got the point:)/

He wasn't ready to move on,in my opinion,althought he tryed-that's why his marriges didn't work.But Holli's leaving gave him the strength to move on-in "Requiem" I felt he was ready to leave the memory of Shanon and Kelly behind."